After several years of not speaking to one another (for no particular reason), I was invited to my cousin’s daughter’s birthday party that took place yesterday. Naturally, I was a bit apprehensive because I hadn’t seen her or her children in years, but I decided to make it and support her and her family regardless of any discomfort that I anticipated. While there, I saw my older sister who I also haven’t spoken to in years (for particular reasons). As I walked into the apartment, I approached my aunt (my cousin’s mother) to greet her–the look on her face was one of confusion. She didn’t recognize me…it had been that long. Moments later, there was a knock at the door–the last guest had arrived, my uncle, who I also haven’t seen or spoken to in years. I respectfully got out of my seat to greet him, “Well, hello sir!” He glanced at me, “Hello,” and proceeded into the kitchen to greet my sister and mother. He also didn’t recognize me. My thoughts began to settle on the realization of how divided my family is…
As I continue to grow and consider starting a family of my own, I have also been thinking about the kind of upbringing and environment that I want to raise my future children in. It is clear to me that there are several generational curses that have been continued in my family–one being a curse of division. Mothers and daughters failing to communicate for years. Sisters severing relationships due to a lack of consideration, compassion, and communication. Brothers promoting seclusion to avoid confrontation. Is this what I want to pass down to my children? Is this what will happen to my family as we grow? The questions were flowing. What kind of seeds do I want to plant for them? How will I develop their character? How will I communicate with them when they are wrong and discipline to work towards remediation? How will my husband and I model a Godly relationship to show them an example of God’s intentions for companionship? What kind of legacy will I leave behind for my children?
I resolve to break the curse of division within my generation and moving forward with my children. I will plant seeds of love–teaching them foundational skills of life that will take them far. I will teach them to be compassionate and respectful members of society who demonstrate and share the love of Christ with those around them. I will communicate and discipline in love rather than out of anger. I will remain faithful and love my husband as God intended. In resolving to do this, I pray that this curse of division is severed and that my family is reborn, more united than ever.
What kind of legacy will you leave for tomorrow based on your choices for today?
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